GeoKnight, I don't think excessive masturbation is good, but masturbating alone is much better than masturbating to �naked people movies�. I agree with DLD that if you're in a relationship and having sex regularly, you should try to not masturbate at all. I think �naked people movies� is where you get into really messing up your brain, like I did, and really hurting your sex drive. just you and your hand in an empty room once a day is not going to kill you. and hold on to your horniness, I would consider it a blessing rather than a curse. I'm 21 now and I wish I was as horny as I was 6 years ago...
 
Thank you Bawg1012, �naked people movies� is basically the problem, as it feels as if I need it to jerk off, though getting horny on my own, I need the prone to focus on that sexual image to help me focus.
 
that really is, indeed, the problem. If I were to ask you which you would prefer, the ability to just look at hundreds of women, but never be with them more than in your own mind, or the ability to be able to perform with the women you actually get with in person, which would it be? Personally, I pick the latter. I cut �naked people movies� out of my life completely months ago and it was serving me very well. Had no problems performing. Started watching more for the past 2 months or so (not even masturbating to it, just viewing �naked people movies�) and boom, down went my ability to get an erection, stay erect, even my basic interest in sex has gone down. My aim is to never view it again. I have someone in my life, so why do I need to imagine being with 10 other women on a given night too? Start masturbating with just your hand and no �naked people movies�. and no fantasizing about it or recalling �naked people movies� you have watched in the past. eventually you'll get used to it. in the meantime, pursue a real, live, flesh-and-blood woman.
 
I cut �naked people movies� out of my life, mostly for religious reasons but for a lot of the reasons ya'll discuss as well. I'm a way happier person now. The women who have been in my life appreciated it to, even if they wouldn't have asked me to do it/watch �naked people movies� themselves.
 
bawg1012;556560 said:
that really is, indeed, the problem. If I were to ask you which you would prefer, the ability to just look at hundreds of women, but never be with them more than in your own mind, or the ability to be able to perform with the women you actually get with in person, which would it be? Personally, I pick the latter. I cut �naked people movies� out of my life completely months ago and it was serving me very well. Had no problems performing. Started watching more for the past 2 months or so (not even masturbating to it, just viewing �naked people movies�) and boom, down went my ability to get an erection, stay erect, even my basic interest in sex has gone down. My aim is to never view it again. I have someone in my life, so why do I need to imagine being with 10 other women on a given night too? Start masturbating with just your hand and no �naked people movies�. and no fantasizing about it or recalling �naked people movies� you have watched in the past. eventually you'll get used to it. in the meantime, pursue a real, live, flesh-and-blood woman.

Very good wisdom there, again thank you & sorry for the late reply :p
 
MedicalMind;557878 said:
I cut �naked people movies� out of my life, mostly for religious reasons but for a lot of the reasons ya'll discuss as well. I'm a way happier person now. The women who have been in my life appreciated it to, even if they wouldn't have asked me to do it/watch �naked people movies� themselves.

Praise God for your Awesome Choice! I am so happy the Lord is Blessing you with Happiness because of your choice. Whenever we give up something for Jesus he always replaces that with a virtue, I think you understand:)

I am so close to a better understanding of what is ok and what is not. I still am not perfect and still make mistakes but being celibate is not the easiest thing to do. I have tried to keep anything I look at clean of anything but a female showing herself in a erotic way by choice. This seems to be the dirtiest I can go without guilt. I am finding, as I trim more and more out of my life I am finding more creative ways to masturbate without guilt of breaking religious law (for me Catholicism) I do was after emission and when I do go beyond my conscious I pray for forgiveness immediately. I know God loves me and is listening to my prayers on this topic and I hope to bring better information to the public on what I believe to be ok and not ok as a Minister and Orthodox Catholic. The Bible is not very clear on some things and further understandings are important to get a better model of what is right and wrong.

I know there will never be a universal law that will apply to all but I do think the Brotherhood can come with some clarity for the people who greatly suffer with this issue. We live in a very different world than that of our Lord and I think that Christians that are sexually active, with another or themselves, need better guidelines than a single line of Gospel where we are told "If you even look at a woman with Lust in your heart you have already committed adultery". This need to be understood on a much greater level than what is available on line or even in the churches.

I have found this struggle with men from every religion and atheists alike and I have counselled many men on the subject, despite my own struggles. I have made this a mission for me and I hope to make it a bigger part of the Brotherhood so we all can gain a greater awareness of self and disciplines within this. Since I do not have sex I have a different perspective on much of this but I think those who are married or dating can also bring their thoughts to the table. This is a big job and we need to be very responsible in the way we advocate, in order to advocate better we need to explore this deeper.
 
Masturbation has side effects of lowers sperm count and will take longer to ejaculate and there is also a big change of body chemistry. It is also said that eyes become very sensitive to sunlight, BP too low or too high, heart beats irregularly due to the deficiency of the bio-energy in the visual nerves.
 
I had no idea there were any negative consequence to masturbation, to be honest.
 
Well I have another goal to set now. Would it be ok to masturbate only one time everyday?

I have to stop watching �naked people movies�.

How do you stop those mid day erections?


Some days I just start thinking about sex and I get hard. I remember a few times where I wasn't even thinking about sex and it got hard in class. That was so embarrassing.
 
there are no negative consequences due to masturbation on a biological level. If there were negative consequences to masturbation and ejaculation, the same things would happen to you when you have sex, so therefore, nothing "bad" happens biologically (irregular heart beat, high low BP, etc). However, most of the real negative consequences are psychological. Lack of sex drive being the main one, as well as desensitization to any sexual stimulus. ED due to excessive masturbation or heavy �naked people movies� viewing is real. masturbating and watching �naked people movies� as little as possible is a good idea if you want to be able to get a boner when you're touched by an actual woman standing in front of you in the flesh.

smokey622;570821 said:
Well I have another goal to set now. Would it be ok to masturbate only one time everyday?

I have to stop watching �naked people movies�.

How do you stop those mid day erections?


Some days I just start thinking about sex and I get hard. I remember a few times where I wasn't even thinking about sex and it got hard in class. That was so embarrassing.

Smokey, masturbate-to-orgasm as little as possible if you are trying to do girth work or keep your sex drive from diminishing. Masturbating once every other day would be the safest bet while still allowing yourself to release sexual energy (the urge to have sex and ejaculate). Getting spontaneous erections is not a bad thing. Although sometimes embarrassing, it is the sign of a healthy reproductive system. Enjoy your ability to get an erection at the drop of a hat, some people find they lose that very easily as they age, even into their late 20's.
 
Ironwill1984;574567 said:
Sex and masturbation is good just not three times a day.

Well, everything EXCESSIVE is bad, so I guess you're right. (But to me- the less I do the better maybe) :)
 
Zambrodom3;574581 said:
Well, everything EXCESSIVE is bad, so I guess you're right. (But to me- the less I do the better maybe) :)

Moderation in All Things!
 
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